The 12th session of the 4th series of William White’s virtual educational workshops for Congress 60's companions, began on Saturday, February 25, 2024. The workshop was held by William White's guide, companion Aida. The agenda was “Marriage”.
Marriage is one of the main gateways to human growth, and traversing this path without the presence of a companion is very difficult and challenging. The difficulty arises from unsolved problems that exist within me, which were not visible to me at all before experiencing marriage. Many times, simply by discussing my perceptions of what I had seen; I felt a sense of joy and victory. However, when these perceptions and observations reach the stage of practical implementation, they no longer retain their previous interpretations and appearances. In fact, marriage is not just about moving from one house to another and entering a new home; rather, it is about stepping out of a dimension of oneself and becoming acquainted with new dimensions of oneself in the face of completely new events and challenges ahead.
If I want to associate this agenda with smoking or hookah use, the first point that comes to my mind is the change in the speech, behavior, and conduct of a nicotine user before and after marriage. Many times, smoking and hookah use during singlehood are considered part of entertainment and even personal appeal for the user among friends and acquaintances, regardless of the gender of the user. In fact, the appeal of nicotine consumption is often greater for female users, which leads to a stronger inclination towards consumption. Perhaps before marriage, a nicotine user thinks they are free to do whatever they want, they smoke cigarettes very relaxedly; however, the story after marriage will be completely different from before, even for those who spent their singlehood together and were nicotine users together.
During marriage time, various mindsets, cultures, planning, and perspectives on the future will change. For example, for me, the unpleasant experience of hiding my consumption from my spouse's family and enduring the difficulties of this situation wasted lots of my energy which should have been allocated to advancing life in every aspect, both material and spiritual. Additionally, the unpleasant odor of my breath, which may not have been bothersome before marriage, now became bothersome and I received negative reactions.
Another experience of mine was the deterioration of physical strength, which I felt more and more every day. These unpleasant experiences continued even after becoming a mother, until I finally reached a point of surrender in this inner battle. I thank God that the flawless path of Congress 60 was laid out before me. However, with all these hardships behind me, now that I am experiencing two years of freedom from the [satanic] bondage of nicotine, I take pride in this significant achievement. This is because overcoming nicotine addiction can often be more challenging than any other forms of treatment [e.g. opium, heroin, etc.]. Of course, if the wife or the husband can traverse it [if they cure their addiction], they will experience a more complete experience of feeling security, love, strength, and greater self-confidence.
Furthermore, if I want to refer back to marriage, I have the experience of nicotine consumption before and after marriage, and the most rewarding aspect for me is the experience of proper treatment and gaining complete and healthy awareness from this journey. This was one of the locks that made me think much more about treatment and freedom after marriage. Now that I am also a mother, I will definitely approach this issue with greater awareness and a more precise perspective in both my roles as a wife and a mother. This will lead to much better performance, which will significantly impact raising my child and creating more peace and security in the family environment.
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Translated by Companion Fateme Enayati, Pardis branch of Congress 60
