As I entered Congress60, I dealt with this sentence: “All structures begin with contemplation, without it everything will declined.” I thought by myself:” I always seek to find a proper way by which my traveler can quit his drug addiction. In this regard I consulted a number of experts and seasoned people and I carried out all of their strategies, but I could not get a good result. So what was the problem?” The origin of my problem referred to my thought. All I think about was my traveler. I had forgotten thinking about myself. Being in this valley, I found out that I do not have the ability to perform my thinking about others or develop my thought.
Congress60 has taught me that I must think so that it can be applicable. Is way of my thinking about my traveler applicable or not? Could I, as a mother, force my traveler to do something? Therefore this kind of thinking is not applicable at all. I forced him to quit over and over. And I told him: “if you do not quit I will take you to a camp. These kinds of threats, insults, humiliations not only did not solve our problems and cure him, but also caused lots of other problems. And finally my behavior caused my son to leave home. I learnt in this valley, if I am very smart, I must carry out whatever I know exactly. When I cannot avoid backbiting, meddling and doing anti-values, which cause to sick my soul and body, how can I expect my traveler to set aside his drug. What happens to my body if I do not interfere in others’ life? Do my body and soul go out of balance? No, this is not the case. But my traveler’s body without drug goes out of balance and each organ loses its balance. Is my traveler’s using opium, lying and etc. bad, but being suspicious about others, judging, blaming and humiliating him is not bad?
Congress60 taught me to focus on my behavior and accept I have some faults, too. I must put all my energy and power on myself, respect my traveler, love him and learn to love others. Not only I must not be a barrier in his way but I must ignore his faults and help him in his journey.
Congress60 taught me how to think and I knew that thinking has some rules which I must learn and I must bear in mind that I am not capable of solving my problems in a short time and achieve the results. I have done it many times and I have not succeeded .Why? Because I was a mother. I did not have enough knowledge about how to deal with an addict and did not know which part of my traveler’s body has damaged? I only knew that if an addict endured for a few days, he would be able to survive the rest of his life in full health. But this was a wrong belief.
Sad to say, whenever I forced my traveler to quit his drug, after a while, he relapsed into addiction and got worse than before. And I thought that he is inept but the congress60’s resources informed me that I was wrong. Will power by itself is not enough to achieve his goal, but it is necessary to have power of body, skill, purpose, motivation and sufficient exercises.
Written by: Companion Tahereh, Bushehr Branch
Translated by: Mina
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